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aitm:
My niece has a successful micro blading business, one in Clearwater, the other in Miami. Her husband, a successful home inspection for high end mansions along the beaches of Clearwater.

She, after a night of fun with some girlfriends at an escape room, posted on social media a picture of the gals after they made it out. She very clearly shows a white power hand sign. Open and obvious. Normally, I would bring a smack down on her, and her business and by association, albeit , but unlikely misplaced, against her hubby as well.

It pisses me off, not so much knowing she is most likely racist, as that doesn’t surprise me anymore. But that I am “bound” by a great relation with my brother and his wife, and the gal in question as well as her brother.

At what cost to the family dynamic would it incite should I call her out? And should I? And to me, why shouldn’t I call out goddamn racists just because it’s family? No doubt her apology would be effusive, but we all know apologies are for when you get caught, not for being guilty.

And of course, the very real possibility it would, and should, perhaps destroy both businesses.

Cassia:

--- Quote from: aitm on April 18, 2021, 08:57:29 AM ---My niece has a successful micro blading business, one in Clearwater, the other in Miami. Her husband, a successful home inspection for high end mansions along the beaches of Clearwater.

She, after a night of fun with some girlfriends at an escape room, posted on social media a picture of the gals after they made it out. She very clearly shows a white power hand sign. Open and obvious. Normally, I would bring a smack down on her, and her business and by association, albeit , but unlikely misplaced, against her hubby as well.

It pisses me off, not so much knowing she is most likely racist, as that doesn’t surprise me anymore. But that I am “bound” by a great relation with my brother and his wife, and the gal in question as well as her brother.

At what cost to the family dynamic would it incite should I call her out? And should I? And to me, why shouldn’t I call out goddamn racists just because it’s family? No doubt her apology would be effusive, but we all know apologies are for when you get caught, not for being guilty.

And of course, the very real possibility it would, and should, perhaps destroy both businesses.

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Under antagonism these folks simply seem to double down in their ideology, sometimes after the public apology if they sense a financial cost coming their way. They already feel as if they are under attack for some reason. Maybe a long term, light-handed education strategy is in order.

Mimicking the "Gasparilla" boat parade, yesterday 100s of boats circled Tampa Bay in a "Trumparilla" festival yesterday. The ignorance knows no bounds.

SGOS:
While I was out of touch with a cousin for 50 years we did eventually locate each other and because we were family we got together quite often even though we lived 1000 miles apart.  If he was still alive, he would have been cheering the insurrectionists at the Capitol.  He was a racist and hated anyone who wasn't lily white. To make matters worse, one of his daughters married a black man.  He finally forgave his daughter, but she had to get cancer for that to happen.  The other daughter said to him, "It's too bad it took something like this to get the family back together."  He forgave his daughter, but never forgave her husband (for being black).

The way we dealt with our differences was never talking about them, and when I was around, he kind of went light on the racism (as well homosexuality, as you may have guessed was another of his great concerns - can you say "bigot?"). 

Blood may be thicker that water, but sometimes it's still hard to drink the stuff.

Mike Cl:
Sort of related comment.  "Blood is thicker than water"............... In my view, bullshit!  Family is coincidence in which you have absolutely no control; the only control you have is to continue the relationship or not.  I have a brother who was/is a trumpie.  I cannot and will not forgive that.  And his wife is a christian (I guess he is too).  Double whammy.  He is dead to me now, as is his wife, and there is not a whisper of a chance of changing that status.  I can't choose my family--I can choose my friends.  I used to have 5 brothers, now I have 4.

Draconic Aiur:

--- Quote from: aitm on April 18, 2021, 08:57:29 AM ---My niece has a successful micro blading business, one in Clearwater, the other in Miami. Her husband, a successful home inspection for high end mansions along the beaches of Clearwater.

She, after a night of fun with some girlfriends at an escape room, posted on social media a picture of the gals after they made it out. She very clearly shows a white power hand sign. Open and obvious. Normally, I would bring a smack down on her, and her business and by association, albeit , but unlikely misplaced, against her hubby as well.

It pisses me off, not so much knowing she is most likely racist, as that doesn’t surprise me anymore. But that I am “bound” by a great relation with my brother and his wife, and the gal in question as well as her brother.

At what cost to the family dynamic would it incite should I call her out? And should I? And to me, why shouldn’t I call out goddamn racists just because it’s family? No doubt her apology would be effusive, but we all know apologies are for when you get caught, not for being guilty.

And of course, the very real possibility it would, and should, perhaps destroy both businesses.

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You can call her out and explain that hand sign is racist and offends you without announcing to everyone that what she did is wrong. Though of course she can be signing if it were the sign "OK", which was  a sign before the KKK made into a sign. Then again I don't know enough about your relatives to begin with.

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