Terry Crews and the #Me(n)Too Movement

[Shiranu]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yhJTlosX-2g


https://www.cnn.com/2018/06/26/politics/terry-crews-testify-sexual-assault-senate/index.html

Actor Terry Crews called on men to speak more about sexual assault -- both as victims and their roles perpetuating sexual violence -- in order to lessen the stigma survivors face in American life.


Crews was speaking Tuesday at a Senate Judiciary Committee hearing for the Sexual Assault Survivors' Bill of Rights. The actor, who went public in October 2017 accusing a Hollywood executive of groping him at an industry event, cited the "cult of toxic masculinity" throughout the testimony as a primary perpetrator for the prevalence of sexual assault against women and other men alike.
He remarked that manhood "tends to be 'cultish,'" and men will "protect each other," even if at the expense of a victim, resulting in a "complicit system."
The "silence," Crews said, is "deafening when it comes to men talking about this issue."
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Crews did not go public with his experience until more than a year after he was initially assaulted in 2016. He did not feel comfortable with doing so until hearing the "empowering" stories of the #MeToo movement and the victims of Harvey Weinstein.
After going public with his assault, Crews faced "ostracism and shame" from men, especially "other black men." Yet, he emphasized that "being vulnerable and authentic" to men about his experiences as a survivor have helped others come out with their stories too.

This is how you respond to the #MeToo movement, how you make it about men as well as women... not through throwing a temper tantrum that you aren't invited and start shit-talking women and feminists, but realising that women are fighting for the exact same thing and that we were never excluded in the first place. The reason there are no male voices (which isn't even true, they are just ignored by the male community) for these topics is that men (as a community, not as a sex) want to talk over feminists rather than with feminists.

Terry Crews is a fucking hero for men, and I hope that his bravery (that was inspired by the bravery of so many women in sharing their story) helps more men find their voice within the MeToo movement and just in general.

[Baruch]

So he is a foreman on the Clinton plantation? ;-(

[GSOgymrat]

‘It Can Happen Even to Guys’: Ohio State Wrestlers Detail Abuse, Saying #UsToo

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/02/us/politics/ohio-state-wrestlers-abuse-me-too.html?hp&action=click&pgtype=Homepage&clickSource=story-heading&module=second-column-region&region=top-news&WT.nav=top-news

Nick Nutter, an All-American heavyweight wrestler at Ohio State turned professional martial arts fighter, sat watching the television last January as one by one, the young women, former gymnasts â€" some of them Olympians â€" took the stand in a courtroom in Michigan, and in wrenching testimony, detailed how their team doctor, Lawrence G. Nassar, had used his power to sexually abuse them.

The memories that Mr. Nutter for so long had tried to bury came surging back, he said: how when he was in college, his team doctor groped him “19 exams out of 20”; how the doctor once called him to his house for an emergency treatment of a poison ivy rash, carefully laid down and smoothed out a white linen sheet on his bed, then repeatedly groped his genitals when he was supposed to be treating the rash â€" and how for two decades, the burly no-holds-barred fighting veteran had said nothing.

Watching the Nassar trial “woke up the beast,” he recalled at an airport coffee shop here before a flight to Florida for work. Mr. Nutter said he had always believed, “‘He’s a doctor, I’m sure he’s got a reason to be doing it.’” But that was precisely the reasoning that so many female victims of Mr. Nassar had used, and now they were coming forward â€" many of them half his size but with seemingly so much more courage.

He said he picked up the phone and called his former college teammates to ask, “Are you watching this stuff?’”

“Michigan State is what got us to say, ‘Hey, it can happen even to guys,’” Mr. Nutter said.

More than 100 men have now come forward to say they were molested by Dr. Richard Strauss, a team doctor and physician at Ohio State University from the late 1970s to the 1990s, according to an independent investigation commissioned by the university. Three lawsuits have been filed accusing Ohio State of enabling a sexual predator, putting the school into a new and expanding category that includes Michigan State University, where Mr. Nassar preyed on female athletes and Olympic gymnasts; Pennsylvania State University, where a former football coach, Jerry Sandusky, raped young boys; and the University of Southern California, where a school gynecologist is accused of sexually abusing female students. ...

[Cavebear]

It is not the same by degree.  Yes all sexual abuse is wrong.  But please don't suggest it is the same in frequency.  NOT EVEN CLOSE