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Title: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: wolf39us on January 26, 2014, 09:02:32 AM
Stepping on the scale lately has been proving to be pretty depressing.  Holy shit when did I get to 208 @ 5'9??  I used to be so fit wtf.

Anyways, that's to be expected when all I do is go to work (desk job), come home.. eat.. sleep and repeat.  Every once in awhile I'll manage to get out and do something.

Now I've been trying to get my girlfriend to come exercise with me and in my case I'm pretty avid with cycling (road). I did convince her to get a bike and come around town with me which worked for a bit but after a few months though she stopped wanting to go!

Now of course this doesn't necessarily stop me from going, but we have no days off together and I try to spend my free time with her.  At this rate though, I'll never lose this weight.  

Now I love my share of indoor activities (Anime, gaming, movies etc.) but it seems this is all she wants to do.  Everytime I say "hey hun let's hit up the park!" she'd rather do something inside... ugh.

I'm starting to think I'll need to just put aside some time and just say "I'm going cycling for a bit, you wanna come or not?"

Anyone here ever have problems with a significant other that prefers to be lazy?
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: stromboli on January 26, 2014, 09:09:02 AM
My wife and I go camping together and other activities, but we never exercised together. We also have separate activities. I would suggest not to make a big issue of it. People do different things. If she starts porking out and putting on weight, you might want to nudge her into exercise. But after 37 years, I spend as much time as I can on my own because we have different interests. I bicycle, my wife can't. she spends part of her day in a wheelchair and doing stretching exercises, but mostly watches television. She doesn't get fat. I exercise and I do. Go figure.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: Mermaid on January 26, 2014, 09:16:32 AM
I don't understand why this is a problem. You can't make your activities dependent on her! Don't try to guilt her into going with you if she doesn't want to. Your priorities are not hers, remember.
Sure, it's nice to have a workout buddy, but you can't make her want to if she doesn't. Having independent interests is generally part of having a healthy relationship.
I recently had a significant weight loss and feel great because of it. I would never dream of involving my husband in my food choices or exercise routine because I know that if he wanted to, he'd tell me.

And Stromboli, I strongly disagree with you here:
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If she starts porking out and putting on weight, you might want to nudge her into exercise.
She's presumably an adult and can make her own decisions. If she doesn't want to, nudging her might only serve to alienate her.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: stromboli on January 26, 2014, 09:22:31 AM
I have been properly chastised.  :(
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: wolf39us on January 26, 2014, 09:24:26 AM
Quote from: "Mermaid"
I don't understand why this is a problem. You can't make your activities dependent on her! Don't try to guilt her into going with you if she doesn't want to. Your priorities are not hers, remember.
Sure, it's nice to have a workout buddy, but you can't make her want to if she doesn't. Having independent interests is generally part of having a healthy relationship.
I recently had a significant weight loss and feel great because of it. I would never dream of involving my husband in my food choices or exercise routine because I know that if he wanted to, he'd tell me.

And Stromboli, I strongly disagree with you here:
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If she starts porking out and putting on weight, you might want to nudge her into exercise.
She's presumably an adult and can make her own decisions. If she doesn't want to, nudging her might only serve to alienate her.

Hmm, did I say I was trying to guilt her?
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: aitm on January 26, 2014, 09:24:49 AM
Yeah go off on yer own, get all fit and stuff and then you can walk in all sweaty and say "bitch...make me a sammich!"
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: Mermaid on January 26, 2014, 09:27:58 AM
Quote from: "wolf39us"
Quote from: "Mermaid"
I don't understand why this is a problem. You can't make your activities dependent on her! Don't try to guilt her into going with you if she doesn't want to. Your priorities are not hers, remember.
Sure, it's nice to have a workout buddy, but you can't make her want to if she doesn't. Having independent interests is generally part of having a healthy relationship.
I recently had a significant weight loss and feel great because of it. I would never dream of involving my husband in my food choices or exercise routine because I know that if he wanted to, he'd tell me.

And Stromboli, I strongly disagree with you here:
Quote
If she starts porking out and putting on weight, you might want to nudge her into exercise.
She's presumably an adult and can make her own decisions. If she doesn't want to, nudging her might only serve to alienate her.

Hmm, did I say I was trying to guilt her?
No, you didn't. And I didn't mean to chastise anyone. Maybe I could have been more diplomatic about it, but I guess it's a hot button for me. It's respecting each others boundaries and not trying to push your agenda on someone who clearly isn't interested. That is what I should have said. Please don't take this as angry or aggressive. I am just sharing how I would feel if someone tried that with me.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: Mermaid on January 26, 2014, 09:29:13 AM
Quote from: "aitm"
Yeah go off on yer own, get all fit and stuff and then you can walk in all sweaty and say "bitch...make me a sammich!"
You crack me the hell up almost constantly.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: wolf39us on January 26, 2014, 09:29:16 AM
Quote from: "aitm"
Yeah go off on yer own, get all fit and stuff and then you can walk in all sweaty and say "bitch...make me a sammich!"

HA!  I love this response.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: stromboli on January 26, 2014, 09:30:39 AM
Quote from: "aitm"
Yeah go off on yer own, get all fit and stuff and then you can walk in all sweaty and say "bitch...make me a sammich!"

Once.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: Mermaid on January 26, 2014, 09:31:09 AM
Quote from: "stromboli"
Quote from: "aitm"
Yeah go off on yer own, get all fit and stuff and then you can walk in all sweaty and say "bitch...make me a sammich!"

Once.
Truth.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: AllPurposeAtheist on January 26, 2014, 10:13:59 AM
Quote from: "aitm"
Yeah go off on yer own, get all fit and stuff and then you can walk in all sweaty and say "bitch...make me a sammich!"
I'm pretty sure my ex was related to Elana Bobbit. She has a sister named Elana.  :shock:
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: Jack89 on January 26, 2014, 12:30:57 PM
I like to bike as well, but it does take some time.  I recommend simple bodyweight circuit training 3 times a week at the house, for about 15-20 minutes a pop.  I found this to be the best way to lose weight and keep it off.  And since it take virtually no time, I can't blow it off as easy.  It also works the upper body which often gets ignored.

Bike ride on your days off if you have time and lose even more weight.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: stromboli on January 26, 2014, 12:56:57 PM
Yeah, I concur. I used to know a Cardiologist/fit nut who basically said you should run for cardio, because biking just wasn't as effective. weight lifting should be included. I've blown my right arm bicep completely with both tendons destroyed, so I can't lift. I have a Popeye right arm because all the muscularity is in the lower arm and not the upper.

I mountain bike because I have actual mountains.  My son- the Army guy- does a Muay Thai workout that is very effective. I might look into that.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: wolf39us on January 26, 2014, 01:39:18 PM
Quote from: "stromboli"
Yeah, I concur. I used to know a Cardiologist/fit nut who basically said you should run for cardio, because biking just wasn't as effective. weight lifting should be included. I've blown my right arm bicep completely with both tendons destroyed, so I can't lift. I have a Popeye right arm because all the muscularity is in the lower arm and not the upper.

I mountain bike because I have actual mountains.  My son- the Army guy- does a Muay Thai workout that is very effective. I might look into that.

I've read studies that say otherwise.

Not because you get more burn out of the same work, but because biking is easier to sustain in the end (for most people).  While running a distance could burn an almost negligible amount more than biking... biking has little to no impact on your joints and reduces fatigue giving you the ability to go for much longer.

That's not to say of course that there aren't ridiculous runners that can run until their heart stops beating.  I've done upwards of 65 miles in a single biking session which is a shit ton of burn... I'd like to see a runner do that :-)
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: stromboli on January 26, 2014, 02:39:42 PM
Not arguing, just repeating what the Cardiologist said. Biking is definitely easier on me, for sure. Depends on how far and how much, like anything else. I typically ride about 10-15 miles, but that is over a very hilly trail with a lot of ups and downs, so I get a pretty good burn. What I want to do is ride this trail they have near Ogden that runs along the Weber River, and goes all the way from South Ogden to the mouth of Ogden canyon, about 20 miles. Some of the up grades are killer. Not ready for that right now.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: Mermaid on January 26, 2014, 03:37:15 PM
I miss running so damn much. But I can't anymore, I have completely destroyed my knees so I can barely walk anymore.
I do love cycling, it's great exercise and I love it for similar reasons I love running--I can see the world. But I am to afraid of aggressive drivers to do it on the road anymore.  :(
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: AllPurposeAtheist on January 26, 2014, 04:02:33 PM
This past few months I've left my cane at home when I go out,  but it's been a long slog to get this far. Last year at this time I could barely make it 2 blocks with my cane. Now that there's snow on the ground everywhere it's like walking on sand,  but I still slog along in it.
The last time I rode a bike my legs gave out completely and the concrete didn't even say sorry.My uupper body is jelly so I should exercise it beyond getting dressed. The feeling of just getting around without the damned cane is a lot more than I expected a year ago. I fully expected to be using a wheelchair.
I was at big nasty (Walmart) yesterday looking at exercise bands and almost bought some. They're a hell of a lot lighter to carry home on the bus than 100 pounds of iron and a big steel bar.  :)
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: Mermaid on January 26, 2014, 07:17:30 PM
Why do you walk with a cane? Do you have arthritis?
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: stromboli on January 26, 2014, 09:16:53 PM
I walk with a cane sometimes because of Sciatica, which is basically nerve pain in the buttocks and down the legs. I ride a stationary bike in the winter, and it doesn't bother me. but in the morning sometimes it takes some limbering up to get going.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: aitm on January 26, 2014, 09:26:26 PM
Quote from: "stromboli"
I walk with a cane sometimes because of Sciatica, which is basically nerve pain in the buttocks and down the legs. I ride a stationary bike in the winter, and it doesn't bother me. but in the morning sometimes it takes some limbering up to get going.

theres a cure for that, but it involves skeletal atheist and a but...... :rollin:
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: AllPurposeAtheist on January 26, 2014, 10:13:24 PM
Quote from: "Mermaid"
Why do you walk with a cane? Do you have arthritis?
Partly arthritis,  sciatica and some strange ailment that turned my legs into sticks..
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: hrdlr110 on January 27, 2014, 12:15:56 AM
Quote from: "Jack89"
I like to bike as well, but it does take some time.  I recommend simple bodyweight circuit training 3 times a week at the house, for about 15-20 minutes a pop.  I found this to be the best way to lose weight and keep it off.  And since it take virtually no time, I can't blow it off as easy.  It also works the upper body which often gets ignored.

Bike ride on your days off if you have time and lose even more weight.

this^ strength training is the true path to lasting weight loss. Combining with cardio can make it more effective, but only strength training will change your resting metabolic rate.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: SilentFutility on January 27, 2014, 06:12:12 PM
Quote from: "stromboli"
My son- the Army guy- does a Muay Thai workout that is very effective. I might look into that.
That, or any other martial art like boxing etc. done properly is an excellent way to stay fit.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: Naru on March 24, 2014, 10:12:13 PM
Stop eating Burger King when you go on lunch at work and maybe you wont break your scale.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: Hijiri Byakuren on March 24, 2014, 10:14:12 PM
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Stop eating Burger King when you go on lunch at work and maybe you wont break your scale.
Can confirm, broke scale once.

By kicking it due to it saying "230 pounds."
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: curiouscrab on March 24, 2014, 10:20:08 PM
In Track I run behind the ladies on purpose (I'm not slow, fastest on the team actually).  :dance: Sort of looks like this ---> :axe: :wtff:
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: AllPurposeAtheist on March 25, 2014, 10:26:50 AM
This is the first winter of my life when I've actually put weight on and I suspect you all had a hand in it. I saw myself naked in a mirror recently for the first time in a long time and the nudity gods were not pleased. I've got this gut thing going on that disturbs me and with my shitty legs it may never disappear, but I did invest in the latex exercise bands and to my surprise I'm actually stronger than I thought, but don't see it making this new pregnancy look of mine going away anytime soon unless the weather warms up and I get out and torture my legs again like last year. The thing is when I drop weight I usually drop way to much. I don't want to go from my distinguished portly look again to looking like a refugee from a nazi concentration camp like a few years ago.
Now about this guilt stuff.. I'm just picking shoe at random. It's your fault. :lol:
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: The Skeletal Atheist on March 26, 2014, 10:19:24 PM
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theres a cure for that, but it involves skeletal atheist and a but...... <!-- s:rollin: -->:rollin:<!-- s:rollin: -->
I seem to have become the proverbial boogieman for the straight guys on the forum.

I am become gay, destroyer of buttholes.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: aitm on March 26, 2014, 10:27:06 PM
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Can confirm, broke scale once.

By kicking it due to it saying "230 pounds."
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I seem to have become the proverbial boogieman for the straight guys on the forum.

I am become gay, destroyer of buttholes.
I apologize for that. You know I love you, you rascally imp you.
Title: Re: Exercising w/ The woman
Post by: stromboli on March 28, 2014, 11:44:57 AM
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I seem to have become the proverbial boogieman for the straight guys on the forum.

I am become gay, destroyer of buttholes.

Not worried. I have it from my gay acquaintance that my butt hole isn't worth a second look. I was crushed.  :sad2: